/u/BravesMaedchen
There's being embarrassed because "It's not what it
looks like." and there's being embarrassed because,
"It's exactly what it looks like." |
/u/ProfessionalAd6530
I'm nervous! Better get wasted. |
/u/ChefArtorias
Have a shot before the date, sure. Have two even.
Chugging liquor for 5 minutes is different. lmao |
/u/konydanza
I like the image of "chugging liquor for five minutes"
actually being "taking half of a sip from the bottle and
then dry heaving for two and a half minutes before
trying again to the exact same result" |
/u/Josh6889
I lost my ability to drink vodka long before I quit
drinking. |
/u/StrobeLightRomance
Vodka is just paint fumes you can drink. |
/u/jaxonya
God invented flavored vodka for girls to take shots with |
/u/RollerskatingFemboy
Well call me a girl then, because I am not drinking that
unflavored shit. |
/u/ScenePuzzled
Follow it up by smoking paint remover, then it's
balanced out |
/u/tommos
God here, yes I know, I was watching. |
/u/Leather_Net_3330
now that I have you, explain baby cancer. |
/u/tommos
Sorry, I'm going through a tunnel, you're breaking up. |
/u/MetricJester
And while you're at it what's the reasoning for taking
away my wife with two kids under 11? |
/u/ChefArtorias
You don't know how some people can drink. lol |
/u/Timely-Cry-8366
Yeah I could take 40 sips straight vodka in a few
minutes and be fine after. And I'm a woman. Alcoholism
was rough. |
/u/Laetitian
Thank you for sharing. It's always unfortunate when
people hide their past and let others stumble into the
same fate thinking they're discovering a unique
experience. |
/u/TheBigfootContessa
Also a recovering alcoholic. I once heard the phrase
"recovering loudly so that other don't die silently" and
I try to live that. I figure there's no harm in letting
others know my past, if they judge me they can't think
worse of me than I think of myself. |
/u/JannyStabberXK4000
The one I like is "you might be the only big book
someone ever meets". Probably butchering it or saying it
badly, but that one has stuck with me. |
/u/noxarn11
I used to have a functional life and inject amphetamine
daily. Now in sober for 1 year 10 months and i talk
openly about it. |
/u/TheBigfootContessa
Congrats! I just hit 11 months! I feel better talking
about it than hiding it. I'd rather people know rather
than find out later and feel like I hid it. |
/u/brushyyy
Those who judge aren't worth the effort to be in your
life anyways. Being able to overcome an addiction shows
me that you've got some grit! |
/u/yungsxccubus
i like this phrase, haven't heard it before. i'm early
days in recovery from alcoholism and i've felt bad that
all i seem to talk about is recovery rn, but i figure
that if everyone knew i had a drinking problem then
they're gonna know all about my recovery too! i hope you
start thinking better of yourself because you seem
awesome, thanks for recovering loudly 🫶🏻 |
/u/Kansas-Tornado
I sometimes feel like I'm the only person who drinks
maybe once a month and just really enjoys the taste of
vodka, although whiskey and beer are preferred |
/u/SquirrelFluffy
"taste" of vodka? That's just alcohol. |
/u/deaglebingo
i will respectfully disagree. my understanding after
doing some stilling myself is that vodka still has some
of the sugars in it from the wash, has flavors, just not
a ton of them... depends on the brand of spirit and the
process.
the way you can taste the difference yourself if you
want to know what just alcohol tastes like get some 95%
grain alcohol and do the math to dilute it with
distilled or RO water to 40% and taste it. will taste
different i'm almost 99% sure. i've tasted both in that
way in the past, just never side by side.
it's an interesting point you make though, so i'm not
trying to be like "iamverysmart" genuinely think it's a
cool easy experiment to try if you want. |
/u/ImmortalLombax
All vodka tastes like rubbing alcohol and smells like it
too |
/u/CuriOS_26
Like anything else, practice makes perfect. But you
don't want to be "that" person, believe me. Stick to
tasty stuff like Baileys and tinto de verano and maybe
some sparkling wines. It's fine. |
/u/ifyoulovesatan
I had to look it up, but "tinto de verano" sounds so
much nicer than "Red Wine & Sprite." |
/u/Suburuneggasaki
Gotta check if your buzzin hard enough. Gotta let it
cook your liver for a little |
/u/HandsOfVictory
Lmao, it's exactly this |
/u/Internecine183
Not to mention in the car?
She lucky there wasn't a cop nearby. |
/u/Krwawykurczak
I am wondering what was her plan to return letter - just
drive back? I doubt she thought about leaving the car
and took an Uber. |
/u/fredjutsu
She figured if she was drunk enough, she'd just go home
with him and get her car the next day |
/u/Njagos
that's a problem for tomorrow |
/u/Dirigo72
I have to assume the "chugging vodka" was embellishment
for the story. If not, yikes. |
/u/jcamp088
I met a girl for a date earlier this year.
We got to the table and she hung her purse off the
barstool which fell off onto the ground a short time
later.
Around 20-25 nip bottles shot out of the purse and
scattered throughout the floor I think the embarrassment
and anxiety coupled with the amount of alcohol all at
the same time turned her into an immediate hot mess
express. The bouncer also had asked us to leave.
Brought her home and made sure she was safe with her
roommate.
Slept with her the following week which was a top 5 for
me. But didn't pursue as she was a severe alcoholic. |
/u/memes-r-me
How low do you have to be to be able to put your dick
inside her but not date her lmao... standards amiright |
/u/iamnotlarryking
If you ever found out about gay dating culture, you'd be
shocked. |
/u/alphazero925
Or hookup culture or college or the olympics or the list
goes on. People be fuckin without dating ALL the time |
/u/WriterV
It's always funny to me as a gay person cause we fuck
right out the gate and then go, "So what's your name?"
It's not always true of course. These days I've been
doing the opposite a lot more often. But sometimes when
the attraction is mutual, you indulge. And if he is
happy to be genial and listens to you after, then you
know you've potentially found a good one. |
/u/SquirrelNormal
About as low as me, but with more game. |
/u/icehot54321
consenting adults do consenting adult things because
they feel like it
not everyone is compatible for full on relationships ..
often times after being intimate you really get to know
whether you have chemistry with the person or not.
getting into a relationship out of guilt would be one
of the more messed up things you can do. |
/u/Bruvvimir
Also fucking != being intimate. Some people can't grasp
this. |
/u/Koqcerek
It's okay to separate sex life and what you seek in SO,
as long as you're honest about it imo |
/u/AdmirableUse2453
how dare men have free will |
/u/ImmortalLombax
How low do you have to be to expect him to stay with
someone that's not in his preferences? She's an
alcoholic they don't have shame. |
/u/deaglebingo
i hear this dude. more than you know. i will say that
when i did follow thru as you say that i tried to "fix"
her, god knows maybe she thought she was trying to fix
me too. for a variety of reasons that went spectacularly
worse for both of us than doing what dude you replied to
did. so all i'm saying is i can see it both ways and i'm
not sure which is better or worse. everyone talks about
red flags and shit 'til suddenly all parties are at
least temporarily colorblind. |
/u/RedonkStonk
Some girls are wife material, some are just for fun.
Hope this helps. |
/u/Dirigo72
That isn't a gender specific thing, that goes both ways. |
/u/kooarbiter
true, some men are wife material as well, can't forget |
/u/Ill_South2644
Only an alcoholic would actually ever do 5 shots. Thats
like pushing it for the end of the date. |
/u/Calichusetts
Being able to chug vodka gets you a special title these
days. |
/u/BeanieGuitarGuy
It was two shots of Vodka. |
/u/canman7373
And she was driving.....Sure maybe Uber was her plan or
w/e, still way easier to Uber to the place sip some
vodka mixed in a drink in Uber than to have to Uber back
to your car the next day. Yeah if I saw a girl who did
that, I'd leave and ghost, she's gonna be the type of
drunk girl who always says she is fine to drive as she
stumbles to the car. |
/u/engineerdrummer
Back in my drinking days, 5 minutes of chugging would
have had me in the hospital. I could down a pint of
vodka in two swallows.
I'm not proud of this. Alcohol is addictive. Don't do
what I did. |
/u/Ken-Kaniff_from-CT
This is what weed is for |
/u/SquirrelNormal
Is she still single? Because I can make her worse |
/u/archtopfanatic123
Wow dude you must have some confidence in your
abilities! |
/u/IndependentFancy7491
dont know about dating but your friend sure is ROUGH |
/u/IWannaBeMade1
I think I would cancel if I witnessed my date doing that |
/u/Exxtender
Yep, you'd never know of anything happening this evening
was her or the alcohol. And neither would she the next
day. Recipe for desaster. |
/u/Percinho
If you see your date drinking like that before the date
starts, you shouldn't really be considering doing
anything with them later, other than potentially getting
them home safely if you want to do them a solid. |
/u/Rhamni
Look, everyone's gone on plenty of dates to the movies
or a nice restaurant. But I bet you've never sat in a
hospital waiting for a stranger to have their stomach
pumped. |
/u/fredjutsu
I played rugby, so never for strangers, but more times
than I'd care to ever do again for teammates |
/u/Jiquero
Using alcohol to handle nervousness in a situation where
it's normal to be nervous? Yeah, that's an easy Nope. |
/u/SirEmanName
Yeah that's an alcoholic... |
/u/Rainbow4Bronte
No it's not. Plenty of people have a drink at a party
for nerves and don't pound shots. 🙄
Alcoholics are physiologically and psychologically
dependent on alcohol. |
/u/Joice_Craglarg
You sound a little defensive.
Drinking at a party is entirely different. You're going
there to drink.
Drinking before a date suggests a dependency in order
to not feel uncomfortable. No, that's not normal. |
/u/Aestpunk4
You are totally right. There are some people in denial
here. What was written in the post is exactly what an
alcoholic or someone who is on their way to become one
would do.
And I'm a recovering alcoholic. ✌️ |
/u/BeneficialRip6350
Loads of people will have a drink to calm their nerves
before doing something social they're anxious about.
They're not all alcoholics and I wouldn't consider this
abnormal.
Ideally you don't need to do this but first dates are
extremely nerve wracking. |
/u/RedditLostOldAccount
There's a difference in having a drink and pounding
shots and chugging vodka though. |
/u/BeneficialRip6350
I agree but the commenter above said:
Drinking before a date suggests a dependency in order
to not feel uncomfortable. No, that's not normal.
So the commenter is out-ruling any level of drinking
before the date |
/u/Aestpunk4
It's normal to drink before a date if you are at a party
or a family gathering and you drank a normal amount of
alcohol with people there. Drinking alone in a car
because you are nervous? That's not normal at all. |
/u/BeneficialRip6350
I disagree. I would say drinking before a first date to
quell nerves is quite normal. As long as it's not a lot
of alcohol. |
/u/Content-Dealers
Id probably let it ride. At worst she caused a scene but
you have the perfectly valid cover of "This is our first
time out, we just met on an app, I had no idea she'd be
like this in person." |
/u/Josh6889
My life has certainly gotten more interesting since I've
accepted team chaos into my life, so I can respect that. |
/u/SistaChans
No sense passing on some potential evening
entertainment! |
/u/Joice_Craglarg
Alcoholics aren't necessarily fun to drink with or be
around. I have more than a few in my circle, and it's
really kind of just sad. |
/u/Content-Dealers
I mean, ive already gotten cleaned up, im here, SHE'S
here, and it doesnt really matter that much if she needs
to liquid courage at the start. I get having nerves, and
a drink does even a person out. |
/u/Main-Baker-8063
I would absolutely not. I'm in no position to judge. |
/u/beiszapfen
So she got there by car. How did she intend to get back?
Did she plan to drive back drunk? |
/u/oO0Kat0Oo
She's the "I feel sober so I must be sober" kind of
girl. |
/u/BuiltNormal
She has vodka at the ready in her car. Says enough. |
/u/BamberGasgroin
Not just any vodka, her 'driving' vodka. |
/u/InfinitePoolNoodle
Yeah, and since she was nervous about driving drunk, she
had a few more shots to calm down |
/u/Fancy-Supermarket782
Chugging vodka behind the wheel? No thank I wpulda
reversed and left. Clearly a woman who doesn't make wise
decisions |
/u/Herr-Trigger86
I think that it was clear at the outset that she makes
poor decisions... she decided to go out with me in the
first place. |
/u/Fancy-Supermarket782
You know what? You got me there if she's making the
decision to date me she's prob low iq already but it's
okau |
/u/notyourvader
There's a special place in hell for drunk drivers. |
/u/Abadleftankle
1 shot to calm the nerves is cool imo, but having to
have an altered state of mind during a first date is not
it. |
/u/Glasseshalf
Not behind the wheel man! |
/u/Hiraganu
Using alcohol to calm down is never a good idea. |
/u/Adkit
You can just not do that. It's not "rough" because
you're an alcoholic who needs alcohol to function. |
/u/Sufficient-Sun-6683
That guy dodged a bullet. |
/u/National_Airline1
That bullet ain going straigth after 5 vodkas anyway. |
/u/Colbina
it doesn't say anywhere that he decided not to go on the
date or even if he had a problem with it. maybe he was
in the car chugging his own bottle, too |
/u/Im_Unsure_For_Sure
The post ends with "Dating is rough".
We can pretty easily infer what his response was from
this. |
/u/HHHearth
Certainly dodged a dui |
/u/ghoulieandrews
I'm not sure "dating" is the issue here, most things are
a lot rougher after pounding several shots of vodka |
/u/IrrerPolterer
This is not a healthy way to deal with anxiety, wtf |
/u/sasquatchmarley
"My friend is a raging alcoholic who drinks excessively
in her vehicle before social interactions". Do not
normalise this bizarre behaviour. |
/u/nsfwaltsarehard
And don't blame it on dating being rough.
It is. Because of people like her. |
/u/Codename_Dove
accountability is lost on certain people and it's
frustrating |
/u/Melicor
Lot of borderline, if not full blown, alcoholics rushing
to her defense here in the comments. You're right.
Non-alcoholics don't drive around with a bottle of vodka
sitting in their car. That's not normal, if you think it
is, you might just have a problem. That's the bigger
tell that she has a problem, not the part about taking a
shot to calm her nerves. Though that isn't exactly
healthy either. |
/u/MadCatDisease666
imagine thinking you've got an awesome story for your
date only to find out your date is the awesome story
😹 |
/u/CelebrationSome2360
Imagine going to a date and the girl is completely
sober. Then in like 20 mins without watching her drink
at all BOOM, drunk as hell. |
/u/presumably_alterable
Your wait staff would definitely suspect you of foul
play |